Isn't it sad, how things/people seem suddenly MORE important or significant to you when there is tragedy in your or someone else's life? I just read a story on CNN (and watched the video) of a father doing a press conference notifying the media that his 3 year old son that went missing in the tornadoes in Oklahoma was found this morning, not alive. My heart sank to my stomach, he was Benny's age. I can't even imagine the heartbreak those poor parents are going through. Not only did they lose him, they lost their 15 month old son too. The poor mother is pregnant and in the hospital as well as their oldest daughter.
I go through life, with the motions every day. I'm a grumpy bear a lot. I'm tired from working and traffic and I get annoyed really easy. I get more annoyed and frustrated than I should... and I think it's my own fault. I forget to stop folding laundry or washing dishes and just sit and enjoy and love on and hug my boy. I forget to laugh and loosen up a little. I sometimes don't allow myself to stop and read him a book because it's an "inconvenient time" and because I'm busy. Laundry will get done. So will the dishes. But he's only going to be 3 for a little while, and pretty soon will be a teenager who doesn't want me to pay him ANY attention.
After I lost my sister, I realize just how fragile life is- and how at ANY minute, someone can be taken from you. I don't want to have to "remind" myself of these things- but I guess it's good to have reminders. I love my husband. I love my little boy. I love our family and would be so sad with out any one of them. So here's my reminder. Take a mine to LOVE. LAUGH. BE HAPPY. As mom would say "Put a smile on your face and a melody in your heart!" And... get over it. :)
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Ben update
I haven't done a Benny post lately. There are just so many things that he's been doing or saying lately that are hilarious and it's hard to keep up with it all!
-Lately, he's had this thing with Alligators. Supposedly they're scaring him. Early this morning (4am) he came in to our room crying. I got up to see what the problem was and ask him what was wrong and he held on to me so tight and said "I scared myself!" hahaha, not sure what he meant I asked him if he was scared of something and he mentioned an Alligator... and then a mouse? I don't know. He might've had a bad dream or something, but he also has a stuffed animal that happens to be an Alligator we got from IKEA and he's been sleeping with it in his bed lately. So took that out of his bed and he crawled in and went RIGHT back to sleep...random! He's also mentioned being scared to go poop in the potty because of the Alligators... again, random!
-He loves to shove food in his mouth lately. Like he has to hurry and eat it. I don't know why he's started doing that, but I guess that's pretty typical.
-Whenever anyone passes gas... or as we say "farts" he says "EWWWWW! Roll da window down!" even if we're in the house!
-He's really been in to playing outdoors which is great probably because it's getting warmer. I welcome it whole heartily. He's been enjoying drawing with chalk and blowing bubbles a lot, and especially when I can blow him REALLY big ones.
He's helped me plant some of our plants we've put in the yard. We even bought a little seed kit thing from the store that had pumpkin seeds in it that you start and then eventually plant in the garden. The seedlings grew REALLY fast and he loved watching them grow everyday on the window sill in the front room. Then after about a week or so we went and planted them in the yard and I let him do that part. 
He has also as of late been enjoying throwing and catching the "bisbee" (frisbee), mostly with Daddy. Ryan taught him how to hold his hands up to catch it, and he does a really good job! He's got a pretty good arm on him too, I've mentioned this before. I hope to get him in to some activity like soccer or something soon.
-Whenever we ask if he need to use the restroom he'll say "I just went pee" or "I just went poop"... even though most of the time he hasn't. It's the "I just..." part that gets me!
-we were all cuddling on our bed just now and he likes to rub our backs when we're tired just like we do his. And so I said "Benny, rub my back please" and so he rubbed it for just a second and said "enough?" and I said "no" and so he did it a little longer "that good?" me: "no, more please" so he continued to do it "enough?"... it went on for some time and it was adorable.
-He’s taken to talking back… something that I want to get in check REAL fast, because that’s not going to fly in my home.
-He loves to dance to music. And he’s starting to remember lines from movies. He was playing with his Buzz Lightyear doll the other morning and he was quoting the part with Buzz's dad saying "FATHER!!!!" in a quiet little voice!
- there's a Christmas CD I made years ago in the car. And he said "ooooh Mommy, I like that CD can I have it?" and I said "no... it's mommy's. It's our Christmas music" and he said "mommy. We go see Santa at the church. You have to get your Church clothes on Mommy. We go to Church and see Santa and sit with him."
-If he likes something he wants or thinks looks nice he'll tell you. He's good at giving compliments. He even opens the door for me at his school! He's said to me "I like your haircut mommy!" or "I like your dress mommy, it's like a princess!"
-after I've gotten mad at him or he knows he's not my favorite person, he'll come to me and say "I love you mommy" and then puckers up and kisses me. He loves to kiss and grabs our cheeks. Daddy mostly appreciates kisses on the cheek or nose, but every once in a while Ben really wants to kiss lips! It's pretty funny to watch them. He's learning the art of manipulation with the whole loving mommy when she's mad thing though! I'm on to you kid..... hehe
-I've mentioned before he's really sensitive, but sensitive to people's moods and emotions. The other night I was kind of sad/upset about something, and we were sitting on my bed and he said "mommy, what's the matter?" and I told him I was sad and he said "it's okay Mommy. Don't be sad. I love you." He always wants to make people's hearts happy and faces happy by fixing whatever is wrong. I hope he stays that way!
-When we ask him what he wants to be when he grows up he says "BIGGER!"
-I think he's starting to shy away from naps. Sad day. He hasn't been sleeping well lately, I wonder if it's a growth spurt or if it's simply that he's having dreams now... possibly scary ones.
-He's still pretty skinny. He's pretty finicky when it comes to food. He'll only eat veggies as long as they're baby food veggies. He's gotten taller... but he's still fitting in to his shorts he wore last summer. But I don't think that's going to last much longer.
-he's starting to be a little more precocious now. He's never been one to get in to things or to climb... and now all of a sudden he is. He still stays out of places where he knows he shouldn't be- but he's figuring out that if he pushes the stool to the counter in the kitchen that he can reach things we don't want him to have. Or that he can climb up the changing table in his room to turn the light on and off. Things like that.
-he still loves bath time and could sit and play in there for an hour if we let him. I can't wait to get him to the pool this summer.
-He's been doing some silly faces in pictures lately. Little Kung Fu moves and stuff.
I guess that's it for now. I'm sure y'all get bored of hearing all these silly details. Or if any of you that are around him enough think of anything else I need to add, message it!
-Lately, he's had this thing with Alligators. Supposedly they're scaring him. Early this morning (4am) he came in to our room crying. I got up to see what the problem was and ask him what was wrong and he held on to me so tight and said "I scared myself!" hahaha, not sure what he meant I asked him if he was scared of something and he mentioned an Alligator... and then a mouse? I don't know. He might've had a bad dream or something, but he also has a stuffed animal that happens to be an Alligator we got from IKEA and he's been sleeping with it in his bed lately. So took that out of his bed and he crawled in and went RIGHT back to sleep...random! He's also mentioned being scared to go poop in the potty because of the Alligators... again, random!
-He loves to shove food in his mouth lately. Like he has to hurry and eat it. I don't know why he's started doing that, but I guess that's pretty typical.
-Whenever anyone passes gas... or as we say "farts" he says "EWWWWW! Roll da window down!" even if we're in the house!
-He's really been in to playing outdoors which is great probably because it's getting warmer. I welcome it whole heartily. He's been enjoying drawing with chalk and blowing bubbles a lot, and especially when I can blow him REALLY big ones.
He's helped me plant some of our plants we've put in the yard. We even bought a little seed kit thing from the store that had pumpkin seeds in it that you start and then eventually plant in the garden. The seedlings grew REALLY fast and he loved watching them grow everyday on the window sill in the front room. Then after about a week or so we went and planted them in the yard and I let him do that part. 
He has also as of late been enjoying throwing and catching the "bisbee" (frisbee), mostly with Daddy. Ryan taught him how to hold his hands up to catch it, and he does a really good job! He's got a pretty good arm on him too, I've mentioned this before. I hope to get him in to some activity like soccer or something soon. |
| This was him throwing to Poppy |
-we were all cuddling on our bed just now and he likes to rub our backs when we're tired just like we do his. And so I said "Benny, rub my back please" and so he rubbed it for just a second and said "enough?" and I said "no" and so he did it a little longer "that good?" me: "no, more please" so he continued to do it "enough?"... it went on for some time and it was adorable.
-He’s taken to talking back… something that I want to get in check REAL fast, because that’s not going to fly in my home.
-He loves to dance to music. And he’s starting to remember lines from movies. He was playing with his Buzz Lightyear doll the other morning and he was quoting the part with Buzz's dad saying "FATHER!!!!" in a quiet little voice!
- there's a Christmas CD I made years ago in the car. And he said "ooooh Mommy, I like that CD can I have it?" and I said "no... it's mommy's. It's our Christmas music" and he said "mommy. We go see Santa at the church. You have to get your Church clothes on Mommy. We go to Church and see Santa and sit with him."
-If he likes something he wants or thinks looks nice he'll tell you. He's good at giving compliments. He even opens the door for me at his school! He's said to me "I like your haircut mommy!" or "I like your dress mommy, it's like a princess!"
-after I've gotten mad at him or he knows he's not my favorite person, he'll come to me and say "I love you mommy" and then puckers up and kisses me. He loves to kiss and grabs our cheeks. Daddy mostly appreciates kisses on the cheek or nose, but every once in a while Ben really wants to kiss lips! It's pretty funny to watch them. He's learning the art of manipulation with the whole loving mommy when she's mad thing though! I'm on to you kid..... hehe
-I've mentioned before he's really sensitive, but sensitive to people's moods and emotions. The other night I was kind of sad/upset about something, and we were sitting on my bed and he said "mommy, what's the matter?" and I told him I was sad and he said "it's okay Mommy. Don't be sad. I love you." He always wants to make people's hearts happy and faces happy by fixing whatever is wrong. I hope he stays that way!
-When we ask him what he wants to be when he grows up he says "BIGGER!"
-I think he's starting to shy away from naps. Sad day. He hasn't been sleeping well lately, I wonder if it's a growth spurt or if it's simply that he's having dreams now... possibly scary ones.
-He's still pretty skinny. He's pretty finicky when it comes to food. He'll only eat veggies as long as they're baby food veggies. He's gotten taller... but he's still fitting in to his shorts he wore last summer. But I don't think that's going to last much longer.
-he's starting to be a little more precocious now. He's never been one to get in to things or to climb... and now all of a sudden he is. He still stays out of places where he knows he shouldn't be- but he's figuring out that if he pushes the stool to the counter in the kitchen that he can reach things we don't want him to have. Or that he can climb up the changing table in his room to turn the light on and off. Things like that.
-he still loves bath time and could sit and play in there for an hour if we let him. I can't wait to get him to the pool this summer.
-He's been doing some silly faces in pictures lately. Little Kung Fu moves and stuff.
I guess that's it for now. I'm sure y'all get bored of hearing all these silly details. Or if any of you that are around him enough think of anything else I need to add, message it!
Friday, May 6, 2011
Easter 2011
We had a good Easter. It was a gorgeous day. Ben asked if we could color eggs this year so I got one of those fun little kits and we went out to the garage and driveway to die our eggs. Ryan had actually never (to his knowledge) died Easter Eggs before so it was fun for everyone! Afterward Ryan traced Benny on the driveway a few times! We enjoyed sitting outside on the front porch for a while too.
We spent the rest of the afternoon with Ryan's family. Everyone came so it was a busy house but lots of fun. It's always good to see extended family.
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| Ben and his cousin Nicholas |
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| Little Stud |
Ryan & I hid the eggs; the ones we dyed and the ones Nana had put together (which are far more fun because they have money in them!) out in the backyard. The kids went on their hunt and Ben had a ball. He really had fun with it this year. Nana & Poppy got them all Easter baskets too. I decided I'll do that for him next year. :) BUT I really want him to understand the importance of Easter and why we really celebrate it, and that it's about the Resurrection of our Lord and Savior... and not just a bunny and some candy. That part is fun yes, but not the important part. We were SUPER exhausted after having had a very busy week so we didn't stay too long, but did enjoy our time!
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| Nana & Poppy and all their grandchildren |
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