So, the last couple of days (not including today) I've been a little of an emotional wreck. "They" (whoever "they" is...) all say that planning a wedding is mega-stressful, and I've been trying really hard to not let it get that way. Ryan has been SUPER helpful and has done anything I've asked him to do. As well as other people who have helped me put together invitations or whatever it may be- but I have issues with delegating. I, like my mother, tend to be a control freak. I hope it's not THAT bad, but I have a hard time delegating things to people for fear that it'll be different than I pictured in my mind. I mean, someone could take over a task/project and make it look just fine but it might not have been what I thought it would look or be like and so then it throws me off kilter. So then I just decide to do it myself... and hence the stress creeps in like little termites and makes me feel like I'm going to fall apart. I'm okay though... but I guess I just had to have the "typical breakdown" that all brides have. I feel like I have SO much to do, when in reality we're really in a good place.
I have a to do list, but most of it can't be done right now and a lot of it is doing the marriage license and changing my name and stuff like that. And growing up in my culture, a temple marriage was always something that I just knew I'd do. But Ryan isn't a member yet (we're working on a date for that to happen) and so we have to get married "civilly". So, now I have to think of how we're going to do the ceremony and I have NO idea what to do. I have some suggestions from friends and relatives that had to get married civilly first and that's really helped me out. Anyway, things are looking good. And I am grateful to have a man by my side who is ULTRA patient with me and my freak out moments and stress moments and just my regular emotional girl problems! As everyday passes I am reminded of HOW much I love him, and how perfect he is for me!
I have my first bridal shower this weekend, it's a "Naughty or Nice" shower- so that should be fun! I am super appreciative to my lovely girlfriends for throwing that for me; let's hear it for Cecilia who put it together and Ashley who will execute it, and the help of many others I'm sure! It'll be fun, poor Ryan isn't sure what to do with himself during that time period- but I told him he can work on my car if he doesn't have to work! What a treat eh?
I have a to do list, but most of it can't be done right now and a lot of it is doing the marriage license and changing my name and stuff like that. And growing up in my culture, a temple marriage was always something that I just knew I'd do. But Ryan isn't a member yet (we're working on a date for that to happen) and so we have to get married "civilly". So, now I have to think of how we're going to do the ceremony and I have NO idea what to do. I have some suggestions from friends and relatives that had to get married civilly first and that's really helped me out. Anyway, things are looking good. And I am grateful to have a man by my side who is ULTRA patient with me and my freak out moments and stress moments and just my regular emotional girl problems! As everyday passes I am reminded of HOW much I love him, and how perfect he is for me!
I have my first bridal shower this weekend, it's a "Naughty or Nice" shower- so that should be fun! I am super appreciative to my lovely girlfriends for throwing that for me; let's hear it for Cecilia who put it together and Ashley who will execute it, and the help of many others I'm sure! It'll be fun, poor Ryan isn't sure what to do with himself during that time period- but I told him he can work on my car if he doesn't have to work! What a treat eh?
One of the things on my to-do list was to pretty up my veil. I bought a very cheap, generic one from Michael's that didn't have any embellishments on it and have been searching for something to make it more "me". Nothing looked good, it was TOO much or to little and I didn't know how to make it work- but then last night, I found what I needed! It turned out pretty nice I think! All for like $23 or something! I tried it out and put it on and I think it'll be just right. I'm excited to wear it on the big day!
Anyone need to borrow a veil after this?
3 comments:
The Vail is so great! When Jeremy and I got married I just opted to go vailless. :-D
Your veil looks beautiful. I can't believe how long your hair is. Pretty pretty Heather! From one non-delegating control freak to another, I.Hear.You.Sister! Oh the joys of being caught up in the stress of the wedding planning. The first moment that crept into mine and Nate's planning we sat down, re-evaluated, and got married 9 days later! My un-solicited advice to you would be... keep up what you are doing. Keep your to-do lists and the things that aren't as important to you if they don't come out exactly how you envisioned them are the ones that you could delegate out. I'm happy for you and know that because you are so in love with your sweetie that it is going to be a perfect day for you regardless of what did or didn't work. Remember Nate and I were married civilly and if you have any questions I'd be happy to brainstorm with you. Although it was civil, we cut out a lot of the "traditional" things that go along with it and the ceremony acted more as a "stepping stone" to our temple sealing. Email me if you would like to talk about it. Have soooo much fun at your shower!
Wow that was a long comment I left you!!! So much for unsolicited advice (hee hee)!
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