Ben had his 18 month check up Friday. He's as good as can be expected. He's made it to the 15-20th percentile!!!! He grew 2 inches since his last appointment. She told me I'm doing everything I could be with his biting "issue". She said he's saying plenty of words and is impressed he can feed himself baby food vegetables! he, he....
Here he is with Dr. Greenwald. She's been his doc since day 1 and we really like her a lot!
Because of the biting in daycare, they decided maybe a change of scenery was needed. So they have been "transitioning" him to the toddler room and so far he's done excellent. He's not bitten anyone and has a good time. Today he drank out of a cup...not a sippy cup, but a little dixie cup! I wish I could've seen it! I mean, I saw the juice on his shirt when I picked him up- but the teachers said he did a really good job. He didn't need his pacifier all day either, even napped with out it. I am so proud of him and I guess this is what he needed! The last few nights he's been a little grumpy, okay A LOT grumpy... but tonight he was a good boy and had fun in the bath and even pointed to who Jesus was in his bedroom. He's saying "amen" or his version of it anyway, after prayers now.
Today I got to reading some info on parenting... it's a website for a certain type of parenting and I don't completely agree with it all, but I don't disagree with a lot of it either. I use a lot of the "techniques" if you will already. One thing it said though made me feel horrible... it said that mothers really should be at home and that it's better for the kids. That childcare centers can be stressful on the children and all these other things. That if you are planning to take them to childcare it's best to just do it for a few hours a day, but not all day long. Well... how about that. My son goes 9 hours a day. 9 hours of my day I don't get to be with him. Boy... way to make me feel even more guilty than I thought I could! I wanted to shout at the computer and say "look lady, if I could- I WOULD!" but didn't think that to be entirely appropriate to do... at work. I just hope and pray that some day I can be with my dude and future siblings... if not I hope they KNOW that their mommy really, really, really, really, REALLY (x's a million) wanted to be at home with them. I know it's so much better for me to be with him. Look, I'm not naive- I know a lot of stay at home mom's sometimes wish they had that outside time to themselves. And I know it's not all peaches n' cream staying at home ALL DAY with children. I wont lie, I'm sure it is a lot easier in a way dropping your kid off for someone else to watch all day long. BUT mentally it's not. I want to be with him; through thick and thin, stressful and bad days, good and wonderful days... everything. I want to teach him more about Heavenly Father and Jesus than I know he gets. I'm grateful though that he can go to Nursery at church and learn more there too. Anyway... after a year and a half of this going to work and leaving my little boy at daycare it's still not any easier. That's my soap dish...and here is my cute boy in his new class.
It's raining today and it's been quite dark and gloomy the last few days. It's really starting to feel like Fall though, for the exception of the warm weather. We're planning a camping trip for the last weekend in the month. I AM SO EXCITED! Then can you believe it? October is just around the corner. Blows my mind.
I mentioned before they are renovating the temple. We drive by it every day so we always look to see what kind of progress they've made. It took a while to see anything happening, but then we started noticing dumpsters, and then trucks, and cranes and then Monday we saw this. It's a little strange to see the temple with backhoes and tractors on it's front lawn. We'll see what happens! Ryan suspects maybe they'll put a drop off drive way sort of thing, maybe!
We also got some good news this week at work, the 3% pay deduction they took from us is coming back! Phew! It will be a relief to have that back. Things have been super tight!
Here he is with Dr. Greenwald. She's been his doc since day 1 and we really like her a lot!Because of the biting in daycare, they decided maybe a change of scenery was needed. So they have been "transitioning" him to the toddler room and so far he's done excellent. He's not bitten anyone and has a good time. Today he drank out of a cup...not a sippy cup, but a little dixie cup! I wish I could've seen it! I mean, I saw the juice on his shirt when I picked him up- but the teachers said he did a really good job. He didn't need his pacifier all day either, even napped with out it. I am so proud of him and I guess this is what he needed! The last few nights he's been a little grumpy, okay A LOT grumpy... but tonight he was a good boy and had fun in the bath and even pointed to who Jesus was in his bedroom. He's saying "amen" or his version of it anyway, after prayers now.
Today I got to reading some info on parenting... it's a website for a certain type of parenting and I don't completely agree with it all, but I don't disagree with a lot of it either. I use a lot of the "techniques" if you will already. One thing it said though made me feel horrible... it said that mothers really should be at home and that it's better for the kids. That childcare centers can be stressful on the children and all these other things. That if you are planning to take them to childcare it's best to just do it for a few hours a day, but not all day long. Well... how about that. My son goes 9 hours a day. 9 hours of my day I don't get to be with him. Boy... way to make me feel even more guilty than I thought I could! I wanted to shout at the computer and say "look lady, if I could- I WOULD!" but didn't think that to be entirely appropriate to do... at work. I just hope and pray that some day I can be with my dude and future siblings... if not I hope they KNOW that their mommy really, really, really, really, REALLY (x's a million) wanted to be at home with them. I know it's so much better for me to be with him. Look, I'm not naive- I know a lot of stay at home mom's sometimes wish they had that outside time to themselves. And I know it's not all peaches n' cream staying at home ALL DAY with children. I wont lie, I'm sure it is a lot easier in a way dropping your kid off for someone else to watch all day long. BUT mentally it's not. I want to be with him; through thick and thin, stressful and bad days, good and wonderful days... everything. I want to teach him more about Heavenly Father and Jesus than I know he gets. I'm grateful though that he can go to Nursery at church and learn more there too. Anyway... after a year and a half of this going to work and leaving my little boy at daycare it's still not any easier. That's my soap dish...and here is my cute boy in his new class.
It's raining today and it's been quite dark and gloomy the last few days. It's really starting to feel like Fall though, for the exception of the warm weather. We're planning a camping trip for the last weekend in the month. I AM SO EXCITED! Then can you believe it? October is just around the corner. Blows my mind.
I mentioned before they are renovating the temple. We drive by it every day so we always look to see what kind of progress they've made. It took a while to see anything happening, but then we started noticing dumpsters, and then trucks, and cranes and then Monday we saw this. It's a little strange to see the temple with backhoes and tractors on it's front lawn. We'll see what happens! Ryan suspects maybe they'll put a drop off drive way sort of thing, maybe!
We also got some good news this week at work, the 3% pay deduction they took from us is coming back! Phew! It will be a relief to have that back. Things have been super tight!
6 comments:
Oh Heather, my heart goes out to you. I totally understand the desire to stay home with the kids, through the good AND bad. Parenting is tough, all you can do is your best for the little ones you are blessed with. I hope it works out for you in the future, but from what I've seen (on facebook and here) Ben seems pretty happy, so obviously that website was full of it. It's clear to me his mommy loves him!
Those parenting books make me so frustrated at times. If you read what apostles say, they know and understand that some women are required to work... Your heart is totally in the right place and you are doing all that you can! That is my two cents, anyway. :) You are awesome. And I love the pictures of Ben in his new class!
I love you.
You are an amazing mother and Ben is one lucky kid!! You are doing just fine my dear - don't you doubt that for a second!
I can't believe how grown up he's getting...It might have made me tear up!
Oh man Heather I wish I was there with you so that I could give you a big old squishy hug. You're doing such a great job. It is so clear on that happy face of your little guy that he is having a good life. I know you wish you could be with him all of the time. It's very obvious that when you are with him you make sure that he has quality time with you and your hubby. THAT is saying so much about you as a mother. I remember how tired I was when I worked full time out of the house. I can't imagine having to come home and not just unplug... but turn on the mommy switch instead. I admire you. This kind of thing is never cut and dried. Even the Proclamation states that there is room for exception. You and your hubby have made this decision with Heavenly Fathers guidance and you're doing what's best for your family. You're being blessed for it too. Hang in there. You're a wonderful mommy and person!!!!!!
-Jessica
Oh and good luck on the biting thing. I know some kids are just biters for a bit. From what I've seen... eventually they grow out of it.
-J
Thanks Ladies! That means a lot to me from all of you! I have great friends!
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